Best Four Agreements book review

Best Four Agreements (book review)

Best Four Agreements book review because it is outstanding, to say the least. This is certainly a long but probably a life Transformational reading, you can always read part of it now and come back to read the rest later, it really is phenomenal.

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Best Four Agreements

A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

Notes by Frumi Rachel Barr, MBA, PhD

Author: Don Miguel Ruiz

Publisher: Amber Allen Publishing Inc.

Copyright year: 1997

ISBN: 1-878424-31-9

Author’s Bio: Don Miguel Ruiz was born into a family of healers, and raised in rural Mexico by a curandera (healer) mother and a Nagual (shaman) grandfather. The family anticipated that Miguel would embrace their century-old legacy of healing and teaching, and carry forth the esoteric Toltec knowledge. Instead, distracted by modern life, Miguel instead chose to attend medical school and become a surgeon. A near-death experience changed his life and sunned by his experience, he began an intensive practice of self-inquiry. Don Miguel Ruiz, a nagual from the Eagle Knight lineage, has dedicated his life to sharing the wisdom of the ancient Toltec.

Author’s big thought: In The Four Agreements, don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, the Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives into a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.

The Toltec

 Thousands of years ago, the Toltecs were known throughout southern Mexico as “women and men of knowledge”. They were scientists and artists who formed a society to explore and conserve the spiritual knowledge and practices of the ancient ones.
 They came together as masters (naguals) and students at Teotihuacán, the ancient city of pyramids outside Mexico City known as the place where “Man Becomes God.”
 Over the millennia, the naguals were forced to conceal the ancestral wisdom and maintain its existence in obscurity.
 The esoteric Toltec knowledge was embodied and passed on through generations by different lineages of naguals. Though it remained veiled in secrecy for hundreds of years, ancient prophecies foretold the coming of an age when it would be necessary to return the wisdom to the people.
 Don Miguel Ruiz, a nagual from the Eagle Night lineage, has been guided to share with us the powerful teachings of the Toltec

Domestication and the Dream of the Planet

Dreaming is the main function of the mind, and the mind dreams twenty-four hours a day.
 Before we were born the humans before us, created a big outside dream that we will call society’s dream or the dream of the planet.
 The dream of the planet is the collective dream of billions of smaller, personal dreams. This includes all of society’s rules, its beliefs, its religions, its different cultures and way to be, its governments, schools, social events, and holidays.
 The outside dream has so many rules that when a new human is born, we hook the child’s attention and introduce these rules to his or her mind.
 Attention is the ability we have to discriminate and to focus only on that which we want to perceive. The adults around us hooked our attention and put information into our minds through repetition. That is the way we learned everything we know.
 We learned how to behave in society: what to believe and what not to believe; what is acceptable and what is not acceptable; what is good and what is bad; what is beautiful and what is ugly; what is right and what is wrong.
 Our parents, teachers, and siblings were all trying to hook your attention. We also learn to hook the attention of other humans, and we develop a need for attention, which can become competitive. The need for attention becomes very strong and continues into adulthood.
 The outside dream hooks our attention and teaches us what to believe, beginning with the language we speak. Language is the code for understanding and communication between humans. Every letter, every word in each language is an agreement. Once we understand the code, our attention is hooked and the energy is transferred from one person to another.
 As children, we didn’t have the opportunity to choose our beliefs, but we agreed with the information that was passed to us from the dream of the planet through other humans. The only way to store information is by agreement. As soon as we agree, we believe it, and this is called faith. To have faith is to believe unconditionally.
 That’s how we learn as children. Children believe everything adults say. The result is surrender to the beliefs with our agreement.
 Don Miguel Ruiz calls this process the domestication of humans. And through this domestication we learn to live and how to dream. And we also learn to judge: We judge ourselves, judge other people, and judge the neighbors.
 We train our children whom we love so much the same way we train any domesticated animal:
with a system of punishment and reward. When we went against the rules we were punished; when we went along with the rules we got a reward. Soon we became afraid of being punished and also afraid of not receiving the reward. The reward is the attention that we got from others. We soon develop a need to hook other people’s attention in order to get the reward.
 With that fear of being punished and that fear of not getting the reward, we start pretending to be what we are not, just to please others, just to be good enough for someone else. We are afraid of being rejected. The fear of being rejected becomes the fear of not being good enough.
Eventually, we become someone that we are not.
 All our normal tendencies are lost in the process of domestication.
 The domestication is so strong that at a certain point in our life we no longer need anyone to domesticate us. We are so well trained that we are our own domesticator. We can now domesticate ourselves according to the same belief system we were given and using the same punishment and reward. The belief system is like a Book of Law that rules our minds. We base all of our judgments according to the book of Law.
 The inner Judge uses what is in our Book of Law to judge everything we do and don’t do, everything we think and don’t think, and everything we feel and don’t feel. Everything lives under the tyranny of this judge.
 There is another part of us that receives the judgments, and this part is called the Victim. The victim carries the blame, the guilt, and the shame.
 Our childhood beliefs are based on a belief system that we never chose to believe. These beliefs are so strong, that even years later when we are exposed to new concepts and try to make our own decisions, we find that these beliefs still control our lives.
 Breaking the rules in the Book of Law opens your emotional wounds. Even if the Book of Law is wrong, it makes you feel safe. Our belief system is the Book of Laws that rules our personal dream. All these laws exist in our mind, we believe them, and the Judge inside us bases everything on these rules.
 True justice is paying only once for each mistake. True injustice is paying more than once for each mistake. The human is the only animal on earth that pays a thousand times for the same mistake. Every time we remember a mistake, we judge ourselves again, we are guilty again, and we punish ourselves again, and again, and again.
 How many times do we make our spouse, our children, or our parents pay for the same mistake?
 The Judge in the mind is wrong because the belief system, the Book o Law, is wrong. Ninety-five per cent of the beliefs we have stored in our minds are nothing but lies, and we suffer because believe all these lies.
 Every human has his or her personal dream, and just like the society dream, it is often ruled by fear. The same fears manifest in different ways for each person but we experience anger,
jealousy, hate, envy, and other negative emotions.
 All of humanity is searching for truth, justice, and beauty. We don’t see the truth because we are blind. What blinds us are all those false beliefs we have in our minds. We have the need to be right and to make others wrong. Our beliefs set us up for suffering.
 To be alive is the biggest fear humans have. Death is not the biggest fear we have; the biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive – the risk to be alive and express what we really are. We have learned to live our life trying to satisfy other people’s demands. We have learned to live by other people’s points of view because of the fear f not being accepted and of not being good enough for someone else.
 During the process of domestication, we create an image of how we should be in order to be accepted by everybody. We create this image, but this image is not real. We are never going to be perfect from this point of view.
 Not being perfect, we reject ourselves. We are not good enough for ourselves because we don’t fit with our own image of perfection. We feel false, frustrated, and dishonest. The result is that we feel unauthentic and wear social masks to keep others from noticing this. We are so afraid that somebody else will notice that we are not what we pretend o be. We judge others
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 Humans punish themselves endlessly for not being what they believe they should be. Nobody ever abuses us more than we abuse ourselves, and it is the Judge, the Victim, and the belief systems that make us do this.
 We have the need o be accepted and loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves.
The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that ideal.
 There are thousands of agreements you have made with yourself, with other people, with your dream of life, with God, with society, with your parents, with your spouse, with your children.
But the most important agreements are the ones you made with yourself. In these agreements, you tell yourself who you are, what you feel, what you believe, and how to behave.
 If you want to live a life of joy and fulfillment, you have to find the courage to break those agreements that are fear-based and claim your personal power. Our personal power is dissipated by all the agreements we have created, and the result is that we feel powerless.
 If we can see it is our agreements, which rule our life, and we don’t like the dream of our life, we need to change the agreements. When we are finally ready to change our agreements, there are four very powerful agreements that will help us break those agreements that come from fear and deplete our energy.
 If you adopt these four new agreements, they will create enough personal power for you to change the entire system of your old agreements.
 If you can begin to live your life with these agreements, the transformation in your life will be amazing.

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Be Impeccable With Your Word

 Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of the word in the direction of truth and love.
 The first agreement is the most important one and also the most difficult one to honor. It is very, very powerful.
 Through the word, you express your creative power. It is through the word that you manifest everything. What you dream, what you feel, and what you really are.
 The word is a force; it is the power you have to express and communicate, to think, and thereby to create the events in your life. But like a sword with two edges, your word can create the most beautiful dream, or your word can destroy everything around you.
 The word is so powerful that one word can change a life or destroy the lives of millions of people. Hitler’s word, based on fear-generated beliefs and agreements, will be remembered for centuries.
 During our domestication, our parents and siblings gave their opinions about us without even thinking. We believed these opinions and we lived in fear over these opinions, like not being good at swimming or writing.
 By hooking our attention, the word can enter our mind and change a whole belief for better or worse. For example, You may believe you are stupid. And you may have believed this for as long as you can remember. This belief may cause you to do a lot of things just to ensure that you are stupid. Then one day, someone hooks your attention and using the word, lets you know that you are not stupid. You believe what the person says and make a new agreement. As a result, you no longer feel or act, and someone hooks your attention and says, “Yes, you are really the most stupid person I have ever met,” the agreement will be reinforced and become even stronger.
 Impeccability means “without sin”. A sin is anything that you do that goes against yourself. You go against yourself when you judge or blame yourself for anything. Being without sin is exactly the opposite. Being impeccable is not going against yourself. You take responsibility for your actions, but you do not judge or blame yourself.
 Sin begins with the rejection of yourself. Self-rejection is the biggest sin that you can commit.
 If I love myself I will express that love in my interactions with you, and then I am being impeccable with the word because that action will produce a like reaction. If I love you, then you will love me.
 Being impeccable with your word is the correct use of your energy; it means to use your energy in the direction of truth and love for yourself. If you make an agreement with yourself to be impeccable with your word, just with that intention, the truth will manifest through you and clean all the emotional poison that exists within you. But making this agreement is difficult because we have learned to do precisely the opposite.
 We must begin to understand what the word is and what the word does. If you understand the first agreement, be impeccable with your word, you begin to see all the changes that can happen in your life. Changes first in the way you deal with yourself, and later in the way you deal with other people, especially those you love the most.
 If we adopt the first agreement and become impeccable with our word, any emotional poison will eventually be cleaned from our minds and from our communication in our personal relationships.
 Impeccability of the word will also give you immunity from anyone putting a negative spell on you. You will receive a negative idea if your mind is fertile ground for that idea.
 You can measure the impeccability of your word by your level of self-love. How much you love yourself and how you feel about yourself is directly proportionate to the quality and integrity of your word. When you are impeccable with your word, you feel good; you feel happy and at peace.
 It is up to you to make this agreement with yourself: I am impeccable with my word. Nurture this seed, as it grows in your mind, it will generate more seeds of love to replace the seeds of fear. This first agreement will change the kind of seeds your mind is fertile for.
 Be impeccable with your word. This is the first agreement that you should make if you want to be free if you want to be happy.
 Use the word to share your love, beginning with yourself. Use the word to break all those teeny, tiny agreements that make you suffer.
 Impeccability of the word can lead you to personal freedom, to huge success and abundance; it can take away all fear and transform it into joy and love.

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Don’t Take Anything Personally

 Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the options and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
 The next three agreements are really born from the first agreement. The second agreement is don’t take anything personally.
 Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption that everything is about “me”. During the period of our domestication, we learn to take everything personally. We think we are responsible for everything.
 Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. The opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds. Their point of view comes from all the programming they received during domestication.
 When you take things personally, you feel offended, and your reaction is to defend your beliefs and create conflicts. You make something big out of something so little because you have the need to be right and make everybody else wrong. You also try hard to be right by giving them your own opinions. Whatever you feel and do is just a projection of your own personal dream, a reflection of your own agreements.
 It is not important to me what you think about, and I don’t take what you think personally. I know what I am. I don’t have the need to be accepted. Others are going to have their own
opinion according to their belief system, so nothing they think about me is really about me, but it is about them.
 Whatever people do, feel, think, or say, don’t take it personally. If they tell you how wonderful you are, they are no saying that because of you. You know you are wonderful. It is not necessary to believe other people who tell you that you are wonderful.
 Even the opinions you have about yourself are not necessarily true; therefore, you don’t need to take whatever you hear in your own mind personally.
 There may be times when you have ideas that don’t originate in your mind, but you are perceiving them with your mind. We have a choice whether or not to believe the voices we hear within our own minds, just as we have a choice of what to believe and agree with in the dream of the planet.
 When you make it a strong habit not to take anything personally, you avoid many aspects of your life. Your anger, jealousy, and envy will disappear, and even your sadness will simply disappear if you don’t take things personally.
 You can see how important this agreement is. Taking nothing personally helps you to break many habits and routines that trap you in the dream of hell and cause needless suffering. Just by practicing this second agreement, you begin to break dozens of teeny, tiny, agreements that cause you to suffer. And if you practice the first two agreements, you will break seventy-five per cent of the teeny, tiny agreements that keep you trapped.
 As you make a habit of not taking anything personally, you will only need to place your trust in what others say or do. You will only need to trust yourself to make responsible choices.ceoconfidante@frumi.com www.100mustreads.com 7

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Don’t Make Assumptions

 Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
 We have a tendency to make assumptions about everything. The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth.
 Whenever we make assumptions, we’re asking for problems. We make an assumption, we misunderstand, we take it personally, and we end up creating a whole big drama for nothing.
 The whole world of control between humans is about making assumptions and taking things personally.
 Because we are afraid to ask for clarification, we make assumptions, and we believe we are right about the assumptions; then we defend our assumptions and try to make someone else wrong. It is always better to ask questions than to make an assumption because assumptions set us up for suffering.
 It is always better to ask questions than to make an assumption. In any kind of relationship, we can make the assumption that others know what we think, and we don’t have to say what we want. They are going to do what we want because they know us so well. If they don’t do what we want, what we assume they should do, we feel hurt. A whole drama is created because we make this assumption and then put more assumptions on top of it.
 The human mind needs to justify everything, to explain and understand everything, in order to feel safe. We have millions of questions that need answers because there are so many things
that the reasoning mind can’t explain. It is not important if the answer is correct; just the answer itself makes us feel safe. This is why we make assumptions.
 Even if we hear something and we don’t understand, we make assumptions about what it means and then believe the assumptions. We make all sorts of assumptions because we don’t have the courage to ask questions.
 These assumptions are made so fast and unconsciously most of the time because we have agreements to communicate this way. We have agreed that it is not safe to ask questions; we
have agreed that if people love us, they should know what we want or how we feel. When we
believe something, we assume we are right about it to the point that we will destroy relationships in order to defend our positions.
 We make the assumption that everyone sees life the way we do. We assume that others think the way we think, feel the way we feel, judge the way we judge, and abuse the way we abuse.
This is the biggest assumption that humans make.
 We also make assumptions about ourselves, and this creates a lot of inner conflicts.
 Just imagine the day you stop making assumptions with your partner and eventually with everyone else in your life. Your way of communicating will change completely, and your
relationships will no longer suffer from conflicts by mistaken assumptions.
 The way to keep yourself from making assumptions is to ask questions. Make sure the communication is clear. Have the courage to ask the questions until you are clear as you can be,
and then do not assume you know all there is to know about a given situation. Once you hear the answer, you will not have to make assumptions because you will know the truth.
 Without making assumptions your word becomes impeccable.
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 Becoming aware of these habits and understanding the importance of this agreement is the first step. What will really make a difference is an action. After many repetitions, these agreements will become second nature.
 By making this one agreement a habit, your whole life will be completely transformed.

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Always Do Your Best

 Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstances do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
 This agreement allows the other three to become deeply ingrained habits. The fourth agreement is about the action of the first three: Always do your best.
 Keep in mind that your best is never going to be the same from one moment to the next. Your best will sometimes be high quality, and other times it will not be as good.
 Your best will also change over time. As you build the habit of the four agreements, your best will become better than it used to be.
 Just do your best – in any circumstance of your life. If you always do your best then there is no way you can judge yourself. And if you don’t judge yourself there is no way you are going to suffer from guilt, blame, and self-punishment. By always doing your best, you will break a big spell that you have been under.
 Doing your best, you are going to live your life intensely. When you always do your best, you will take action. Doing your best is taking the action because you love it, not because you’re expecting a reward. If you take action just for the sake of doing it, without expecting a reward, you will find that you enjoy every action you do. Rewards will come, but you are not attached to the reward. If we like what we do, if we always do our best, then we are really enjoying life.
We are having fun, we don’t get bored, and we don’t have frustrations.
 It is not an easy agreement to keep, but this agreement is really going to set you free.
 When you do your best you learn to accept yourself. But you have to be aware and learn from your mistakes. Learning from your mistakes means you practice, look honestly at the results, and keep practicing. This increases your awareness.
 Taking action is being alive. It’s taking the risk to go out and express your dream.
 The first three agreements will only work if you do your best. By doing your best, the habits of misusing your word, taking things personally, and making assumptions will become weaker and less frequent with time.
 If you do your best always, over and over again, you will become a master of transformation.
Everything you have ever learned, you learned through repetition. Action is what makes the difference.
 If you break an agreement, begin again tomorrow, and again the next day. Some day you will discover that you are ruling your life with these Four Agreements. Just live one day at a time and stay in the present moment.

The Toltec Path to Freedom Breaking Old Agreements
 To be Toltec is a way of life. It is a way of life where there are no leaders and no followers, where you have your own truth and live your own truth.ceoconfidante@frumi.com www.100mustreads.com 9
 There are three masteries that lead people to become Toltec:
 First is the Mastery of Awareness. This is to be aware of who we really are, with all the possibilities.
 The second is the Mastery of Transformation – how to change, how to be free of domestication.
 The third is the Mastery of Intent. The intent from the Toltec point of view is that part of life that makes the transformation of energy possible; it is the one living being that seamlessly encompasses all energy, or what we call “God”. The intent is life itself; it is unconditional love. The Mastery of Intent is therefore the Mastery of Love.
When we talk about the Toltec path to freedom, we find that they have an entire map for breaking free of domestication. They compare the Judge, the victim, and the belief system to a parasite that invades the human mind. The food for the parasite is the negative emotions that come from fear.
 The Toltecs believe that the parasite has control of your mind.
 The freedom we seek is to use our own mind and body, to live our own life, instead of the life of the belief system.
 We have two choices. One is to keep living the way we are, to surrender to the Judge, and the victim, to keep living in the dream of the planet. The second choice is to do what we do as children when parents try to domesticate us. We can rebel and say “No!”
 If we want to be free, we have to destroy the parasite. One solution is to face each of our fears one by one. This is a slow process but it works.
 The second approach is to stop feeding the parasite – to gain control of our emotions; we have to refrain from fueling the emotions that come from fear. The third solution is the initiation of the dead – a symbolic death that kills the parasite without harming our physical body.
 The process of domestication can be called the dream of the first attention because it was how your attention was used for the first time to create the first dream of your life.
 One way to change your beliefs is to focus your attention on all those agreements and beliefs, and change the agreements with yourself. In doing this you are using your attention for the second time, thus creating the dream of the second attention or the new dream.
 The difference is that you are no longer innocent. Now it’s up to you to choose what to believe and what not to believe, and that includes believing in yourself.
 The first step is to come aware of the fig that is in your mind. Only with the awareness do you have the possibility of transforming your dream. If you have the awareness that the whole drama of your life is the result of what you believe, and what you believe is not real, then you can begin to change it. You need to focus your attention on what it is that you want to change. You have to know which agreements you want to change before you can change them.
 So the next step is to develop an awareness of all the self-limiting beliefs that make you unhappy. You take an inventory of all that you believe, all your agreements, and through this process, you begin the transformation. The Toltecs call this the Art of Transformation. One of the ways to do this is to explore and adopt alternative beliefs such as the four Agreements.
 The four Agreements were created to assist you in the Art of Transformation, to help you break the limiting agreements, gain more personal power, and become stronger. The stronger you get, the more agreements you can break until the moment comes when you make it to the core of all those agreements

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Notes for the Heart

Notes for the Heart

Notes for the Heart is for everyone that is in the in-between stage of something, in the void. Those that long coming out of the closet needing ground, to land on.

Enjoy notes for the heart conversation, companionship. With a  cuppa coffee or tea, a break or indulge in a moment of reflection of some sort if the subject is inviting.

If it pleases you, let the songs of this playlist play as you take some time to relax, enjoy, engage, open-mindedly and in no rush while you read.  Spiritual BazarHeart playlist.

Our physical aspect can be changed cosmetically (not in essence), but can be seen in the mirror, and is easy to describe. Talking about reclaiming, revisiting, reminding, re-connecting even re-wiring with our true selves or Identifying our mental and spiritual nature is a very different matter.

Co-creating with all aspects of our being; the physical, the mental, the emotional in unison. Embracing our true nature can at times sound a little lunatic. But again if being crazy was a norm, the difference is that some just hide their madness better than others.

Let us see ourselves through different lenses just for a moment, shall we?

Everyone’s way of expanding is unique and equally valid, there is no right way or wrong way, seriously.  Re-aligning, re-uniting, connecting the self really is possible.

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Through the Eyes of the Heart

When I think of myself :

  • What do I see? When I look at myself in a mirror
  • Do I like what I see?
  • Am I beautiful inside and out?
  • What kind of person am I?
  • How do I talk to myself?
  • How do I treat myself?
  • What are the thoughts, feelings I have about myself?

Do all your answers come from your unconditional love space? Nope, not really and not often…sadly so right?

That is the goal, that is the other side of the in-between, when we create the habit of thinking, feeling, seeing ourselves with love, compassion as divine beings.

No one needs to deserve love, love is sufficient for ourselves, those around us double-folded, and more.

The point is that whatever we think, say, feel want has to be created,  nurtured from the space of self-love to blossom. Love is the highest frequency that there is.

When we are in the ‘in-between-space” disconnected we lack. What kind of lack? lack of every kind.

The lack of self-love, self-respect, authenticity, divinity, courage to change what we can, and lack of will to accept what we can’t change. The aspect of us that is often dismissive, disconnected, dissociated, or in denial is the personal madness we conceal or try to conceal.

Emotional dissociation can be a protective mechanism and perhaps it is, however repressing emotions don’t make them disappear, we carry them along with us as memories.

These negative feelings stay frozen in time, behind the veil creating all sorts of assumptions about life, about people; Misled energy that often works to our detriment, affecting  ‘decision making’ and ‘choices’. Illusions.

We dis-serve ourselves, perpetuate feelings of lack, failure,     not enough, not deserving, against the current and still reaching out nowhere but more Lack.

  • Make the decision – take control, take the wheel
  • Let go of what no longer matters or serves you
  • Recognize your limiting beliefs

Change becomes a door to abundance. It is not so much like the ‘process’ that you worry about, the key is in making the decision, all else follows, there is no resistance thereafter because change is what you decide to do and so it unfolds.

While in the one hand, we think we don’t have to deal with trauma because it is too much to handle and time goes by. On the other hand, it remains within like a shadow for lack of a better word, that follows us wherever we go and it does not disappear.

“Dissociation is a break in how your mind handles information. You may feel disconnected from your thoughts, feelings, memories, and surroundings. It can affect your sense of identity and your perception…” WebMD

As life unravels, ups and downs of day to day and challenges come and go, these combined with everything else that we have repressed, become overbearing, frustrating to say the least – we feel overwhelmed and it can lead to serious other illnesses that manifest in the body and so on. The Emotions, thoughts of tragedies of all kinds that we experienced keep coming up, and further trap us in this somewhat void. Although dissociation is at times necessary and important to carry on with life we need to connect and deal with these issues sooner than later to actually heal and live a more fulfilling life.

When we overindulge in it in my opinion we stagnate and struggle to move on, or never actually move on, we live haunted. Just like as when we don’t grief we get no closure. This is also a sort of “in-between” stage example.

The truth is we can get out of this (in-between’s) mode and stage. We can calibrate ourselves from whichever void we are in, wherever our in-between is at, in the context of self-healing.

“…we cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning, for what was great in the morning will be little at evening, and what in the morning was true, at evening will have become a lie.” – Carl Jung

A tragedy is a tragedy, “When greed and courage to do evil get together, it produces scenes of horror “. Paulo A. Lima- Quora

The chaotic thoughts and feelings that we carry freeze us in time. When we engage or stay in this ‘perpetrator/victim’ merry-go-round exercise, we further disconnect from our true selves.

Those that choose to heal, awaken and evolve, need to realize that this loop or cycle only exists because we either engage in or resist it, in some way. Creating resistance of any kind is a form of being engaged by the way at least in this context.

Acknowledging that, the very same things that happen, (the most horrific at times) happened for us to create momentum to purge, release and heal the emotional burden. This is the kind of Misery and Lack that enable self-healing and transformation. The process opens the door, allows and welcomes creativity, expansion, liberation, freedom and the abundance that is intended for us.

Realizing that

  • I don’t ‘become’ the tragedy I’ve experienced;
  • The experience does not define who I become;
  • Because it happened, does not mean it is my fault.
  •  ‘Being’ just me is far more powerful and blessed than morphing into the tragedies I have survived from.

Thoughts and words are very powerful. They have the power to reveal, enlighten, awaken your potential “via what you tell yourself and believe”.

Our thinking-feeling, belief system has just as much power to create harmony as it does chaos, decimating everything and everyone around us, ourselves included like a plague.

Mind Illusions

The mind is the part of the Wizard that creates illusions. The illusion that we see as reality. Reality then the momentum we give to those illusions.

Everything else in-between is illusory reality. Many of us create our lives from this space.

We stagnate in this void in the pursuit of that illusory reality, up until however long it takes to wake up from it – however long. sometimes a lifetime.

Ask yourselves what illusions, (delusions, disillusions) I’ve had or am I experiencing? This is hard to see, sometimes some aspects of it blind us to see the obvious for a reason, usually because they are lessons we need to learn.

When the mind alone rules there is no guidance for where it can take you. When the whole part of a being revolves entirely in the mind, life is ruled by thoughts alone. While a lot can be accomplished we are always right, we know it all.

The Mind compartmentalizes fabulous thoughts too, connecting means depolarise Mind & Emotions. Dr Phill ” Do you want to be right or do you want to be loved”.

You the Wizard of your life, wake up to your power of love, the Bliss of the heart. A pro-active, productive, creative life is a manifestation and expression of Love.

The Master Mind of your destiny seeks perfection endlessly which is not sustainable.

For this chat sake, say Perfect is a “Mind” thing, and Imperfections an “Emotions” thing then.

Our imperfections live in our emotions? What does it gonna do with the mind, we ask. precisely – it disconnects, wants nothing to do with anything imperfect – do you understand what I mean?

The connection is finding balance (fluidly) as a lifestyle. To have balance is to accept both parts of our beings, both polarities as is. Embrace your imperfections the same way you do your perfections. You are your perfect imperfections, denying it and resisting is what disconnects and tears you apart.

“We’re powerless to change what we are not aware of”

We blossom and prosper when positive thoughts – align with positive emotions that align with the expression of our Desires.

Notes for the Heart: I am deserving

We manifest and create more of this when we believe it. In this illusion/reality, your focus is on your own potential to grow the seed within, then nurture with love and appreciation. When we’re humbled and grateful heartedly we reside in the abundant mindset.

Honesty, authenticity, loyalty, respect, gratitude, trust, is cultivated from within and it is a lifestyle. It is this knowledge of ourselves, that defines us. Not what others say, think or do to us.

The kind of relationship that you maintain with yourself determines the level of Emotional Expansion you experience in your life.

Notes for the Heart: I am enough

Humor me and imagine the emotional as a Storage, Container or bank account of all the energetic thoughts-feelings, this is your particular collection… what does it look like? What does it have and how much?

  • How full or empty, is it? or is it somewhere in between?
  • How many great, fabulous positive feelings-thoughts are there?
  • How many are hoarded, revenge, envy, angry, hurtful and negative?

Give it some thought,  if you seek to have an idea of where you are at, we need this awareness to make adjustments or transform. So the question is, are we in need of a good spring cleaning, letting go, recycling and closure?  What needs to go, what has to be released in order to create space for your personal growth, expansion and connection?

You can plan, make the decision and act on it precisely because you are enough, you have what it takes, your internal set-up is already programmed for whatever it is that you choose to do. You make the choices and have the free will to act on them. You just need to figure out what you have enough of, what you want that you don’t have, and what you have and don’t want. You have to know what you don’t want, to create the momentum towards you, the you that you want to be.

Inner Child Love & CareMessage to the heart

Fine-tunning yourself to the frequency of your true self,  “see” and engage with what is called ” your inner child”.

“You look at her and see the girl, Who lives inside the golden world, But don’t believe, that’s all there is to see, You’ll never know the real me. She smiles through a thousand tears And harbors adolescent fears, She dreams of all that she can never be, She wades in insecurity, and hides herself inside of me.”     By Mariah Carey

Invite the little boy or girl that is you for a chat, the child inside of you, the small version of you ( an example of time with thyself). The age that matters in this exercise is any that you identify with emotionally and in need of healing.

Dissociation starts in childhood too as a safety mechanism and this exercise may help you figure out what weighs you down and is in need of healing.

  • Let repressed memories and emotions resurface,
  • Let the hurting version of you come to expression,
  • Let the brave little hero inside tell you “How it feels or felt then and what hurts most” then, and now.
  • Assure, that you can now take care of things and that everything is going to be ok. You can spend as much time together as you wish. As often as you may.

Caroline Myss in this video: Choices that can Change your life, she talks about 3 key choices people can make to change their life.

Caroline Myss is a five-time New York Times bestselling author and internationally renowned speaker in the fields of human consciousness, spirituality and mysticism, health, energy medicine, and the science of medical intuition.

Hope you have watched it and enjoyed it. If not I insist you give it a shot 26 minutes (time well wasted is never wasted time), you may thank me later.

Makes you think right? connect some dots? Jaw-dropping.

Practice and apply this concept as often, let it talk with the areas that are in lack of something, anything that is not aligned with your wish fulfillment. Healing brings harmony to the abundance that we seek.

The basic principle and the ultimate goal is self-love. The focus is on our inner being.

Dr. Andrea Pennington speaks globally to reduce the stigma and support people on their journey to overcoming trauma and embracing authentic living.  My Journey to Self Love

Great right? I loved it!

In the healing arena who we think we are, is often unclear, somewhat fogged, lost, misrepresented, and confusing for some of us, for all the reasons we already know and make us unhappy lacking beings.

Our answers hold the insight for the transformation that we desire

Questioning ourselves however challenging and awkward it may feel is the way to get the answers we want from our hearts, questions are the triggers that spark Self-healing, Self-Love, and Emotional Intelligence.

Talk to your heart, then silence everything… and listen to your heart’s reply.

This ANCIENT Technique To Making Tough Decisions | Gregg Braden – listen to it here is so simple, yet so powerful.

Stay blessed, Stay put, in love, for love, with love & Sparkles for your amazingness!!

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Let them Go to be free

Let them Go to be free

Let them Go to be free, Part I is a reminder that at times some people don’t deserve to be in your heart or in your life at all. The example being used is about a relationship between a narcissistic father and a daughter.

This applies to any other situation of a kind, relationship, or interaction for this matter.

WHEN disconnecting and distancing is really all we can do.

  Let them go to be free, you’re worthy

A 19-year-old girl writes a letter to her narcissist dad describing her 10-year journey better than I could ever convey it.

The letter below is just one in a million examples of what letting go in this context feels like. I hope it makes a difference for her and all those that come to read it.


Let them Go to be free

I’ve been wanting to speak to you, and I’ve been putting it off because it never felt like the right time. However, I’ve realized that the time will never feel right. It’s a sensitive and somewhat uncomfortable conversation. I’m not responsible for how you interpret this, but I want you to know that I don’t want to fight or argue….I’ve been feeling very heavy-hearted when it comes to this. If I sound confrontational… By all means, I’m not trying to attack… blame anyone so be open-minded while reading this, and try to see things from my side, just this once…

I know being sensitive isn’t your forte but I feel like I’ve always been on the short end of the stick. Always feeling sad, always hurting but it feels unfair to continue letting myself feel this way without trying to talk to you

I don’t know … but every time I think of my dad, I think of someone unapproachable.

I’m not sure about you but I don’t think feeling that way is a good thing. I can’t explain it but it has been like this since the divorce. I have always felt that with my dad, he didn’t care.

He didn’t care enough to provide continuity. It wasn’t his job as a father. It was up to him when and how much he contributed.

Nothing was unconditional… a fact I could never avoid.

I got through my teenage years just accepting it, I never gave it much thought. I made sure I kept myself as busy as possible to ensure I never had the time to give it any thought.

My job during school was to get good grades and excel where and when I could. The financial stuff was between mom and dad and had nothing to do with us kids. On the contrary, it had and still has everything to do with us. It was no secret that mom paid for the food we ate, the house we lived in, the clothes we wore, the school we went to, and not once did we ever go without anything we needed. And she would do it without us even asking her to. Unconditional.

But dad… with you it was different…

With you, we always had to ask. And more often than not I would ask with my tail between my legs, I felt as if I was always asking and expecting way too much from you. It’s always been much more than paying for my school tournaments, or flights to you and back, or paying for the medical aid. Don’t get me wrong. I am beyond grateful that you did allow me to play and be part of the team, but it isn’t about the money.

All I have ever felt is that it’s only about the money for you, and the exact figure to a cent with you. Nothing felt unconditional.

…saddest part of it all is that I can’t say I’ve ever felt love from you. And as much as it might hurt or be a slap in the face to hear this, it’s the hard truth and I’ve let these feelings bottle up for ten years now.

I have been feeling this hurt for literally almost 10 years to the dot.

There’s no rulebook to marriage or parenthood. And I ask this in the nicest way possible, would you be happy if your “little girl”, your blood, someone who you hopefully do care for, were to marry someone like you and go through a divorce as messy as yours and moms were?

It hurts Dad, it really, really breaks me because I pray I never get treated the way mom did, and I pray that I don’t marry someone who will leave me to support my children and make my kids feel the hurt I have felt every day of my life for 10 long years.

The thought of committing to something as big as children terrifies me. Because no child should ever have to feel the way I did growing. And how will I ever know? How will I ever know what the man I marry one day will be capable of

In December I visited because I thought I should go visit my family, I wanted to believe that you’ve changed. And as much as you have in some ways, there’s no avoiding the fact that you’ve never prioritized your kids as much as I’ve seen other fathers doing. It’s way too late to change my childhood. It’s gone forever. But it’s time for me to deal with my childhood trauma. And this is the only way I can think of. Making myself extremely vulnerable and approaching you.

Vulnerability – the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally. That’s exactly what I’m doing. I’m laying all my cards on the table. I’m tired of pretending that your actions haven’t hurt me. I’m tired of acting tough.

It’s not uncommon for kids to have issues with parents, especially nowadays. I have many friends who have similar problems. But when they admit that my situation is a lot worse. I can’t even begin to describe the pain I feel.

For the longest time, I was angry. I was so mad that I didn’t have a father who provided unconditionally. But anger wasn’t going to solve anything, being mad at you wasn’t going to change your ways. I’ve accepted that nothing will ever be able to change.

It’s too late to fix how I feel, it’s been engraved. But it might not be too late for my sibling. I think it’s often easy to not think of how our actions affect those around us. But when you’re constantly shouting or constantly angry, do you think any of us feel we can approach you? There is no doubt that he needs a fatherly figure in his life, and yet he has been the one that has visited you the most. Half of the time I’ve questioned, why in the world would anyone keep going back to a place where they get beaten down for not knowing certain things or for doing things wrong? the only explanation I can come up with is that he needs his dad.  He’s no longer a child, he is a young man who needs his dad to guide him. Only four more years and he will no longer be a teenager and money will no longer be able to buy his calls or to buy his love.

Sincerely your daughter who hopes to one day, to have a better relationship”.

Let them Go to be free

       Don’t forget it’s always about them!

The narcissist father-child relationship is painful, devastating, many can relate to Emotional as well as Verbal abuse.

Let them Go to be free

That is just who they are, it won’t change…

Let them Go to be free

” IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT period, none of it is!

  • Not from the beginning,
  • Not now…It was never you, not from then, now, or ever…     
  • Because it was, is, and “always will be only about them!”

” From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia: A narcissistic parent is a parent affected by narcissism or narcissistic personality disorder. Typically, narcissistic are possessively close to their children and are threatened by their children’s growing independence… with the parent considering that the child exists solely to fulfill the parent’s needs and wishes. Narcissistic parents will often try to control their children with threats and emotional abuse.

Narcissistic parenting adversely affects:

  • Psychological development of children, their reasoning,  emotional, ethical, and societal behaviors and attitudes.
  • Personal boundaries are often disregarded with the goal of molding and manipulating the child to satisfy their expectations”
  • Narcissistic parents are self-absorbed, inflexible, and lack the empathy necessary for child-raising.

Get it now, Not your fault?

This is about releasing the emotional abuse you have been through. Whatever the experience is for you, all that matters is that you are a divine being, a rough diamond needing some polishing & healing, but a diamond nonetheless.

 Stay blessed, Stay put, in love, for love, with love & Sparkles for your amazingness!!

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Message for the Heart

Message for the Heart

 Who has a gift to share?

Read all the Message for the Heart while listening to the I am always changing, song and enjoy  😉

Every one of us has so much wisdom, talents, experiences of some sort. We all have a lot to share that can help others, yet we hold back because we think that if our own life isn’t perfect, what would we have to share? Yet it is because our life is not perfect that we have so much and ever something to share…not so? have you ever stopped a minute or two to just think about that?


Isn’t life essentially a journey of growth and development, that each of us embark on? Different paths lead to different outcomes. There are, of course, similarities that our individual journeys share with another; Everyone’s Life is a journey, an evolution, and a remembrance,  it just is. 

There are people out there looking for exactly what we can offer. We CAN help someone else because we don’t have to be perfect to help others. Nobody has it completely perfect. Even the people you think do, don’t. Your gifts are needed! Everyone has something to offer, everyone.

What’s the gift?

It is the strong emotions that surround our own stuff, that keeps us moving through and investing ourselves to expand and continue to grow and evolve, regardless of how much we have or will accomplish. It is the experience we accumulate through challenges and ordeals. My life, your life, anyone else’s life is proof that through these we learn to navigate storms, or that at least we know what not to do, this is the essence of such a profound gift. That is the gift.

How do we give this gift?

 (Message for the Heart)

“Hold the hands of those that are just a few steps behind you, up to your level and vibration and as you keep ascending, keep pulling them up along with you” (Simone Hodgin), this is the gift that we of course have and can always share. When we open the channel, vibrate the energy of our heart in turn the universe attracts the beautiful souls that are looking for what we have…  can and want to give or share. The universe leads them to find us. I promise you, it sure does.

Who receives it then

The gift is for both the giver and the receiver.

 (Message for the Heart)

Message for the HeartThere is no such as a perfectly perfect life,  there are perfect imperfections, as I like to call it.  That is precisely the most valuable of all gifts. Your heart is blessed when you’re humble, vulnerable, and share your experiences, everyone has an encouraging story to share that lifts and motivates someone else that is going through a similar storm that we’ve been through at some stage in our own life. Just as the author of the Book ‘Brave’ by Livia Terra shows, what a gem this book is by the way!! if you would like to see the first pages free click here Amazon link the best 5 US dollars anyone could ever spend, this is what I call the ultimate gift in all senses.

(The Message for the Heart)

Why I am talking about this…

It took me long enough time to realize that it is from the toughest, hardest, hurtful soul-ripping, tearing and raping at times, experiences that inevitably and unequivocally we gain the most valuable of all ‘Gifts’. It is when we can look at all the shit that happens to us from a different angle that we discover our blessings!

Message for the Heart

It is never ‘for’ self-detriment or ‘in’ self- detriment that we have to go through such, nor as with a purpose of loss of any kind. Pain and hurt are our Masters, choose to see it differently. Be certain that it is always and certainly for our growth, there is wisdom in every difficult experience to help us connect the dots, we either see it this way or we don’t, but we can at anytime make the choice to do so. When we choose to see challenging adversities this way, we are automatically equipped to change patterns, direction, and transform spiritually and emotionally. This way we have the potential to live a peaceful loving and content life.  For as weird as it sounds trust me, all the bad has a good value and brings a life-changing opportunity. However, none of it feels this way when we look at it through the lenses and perspective of a victim.

As the Author Livia Terra says in her book  “Brave” You never know the divine plan. There is intelligence out there that is looking out for you even if it may not look like it at the time you are going through it. As long as you do your part in processing what is coming up, every bad day is a healing day. Every hard situation is a healing situation… Trust! ”

Here is another excerpt from Dr Sue Mortar’s e-book…

“Hey, whatever is going on in my world, it’s in my favor and it’s here to show me how “big” I truly am…

  • If I lose a job, maybe it’s because that job was never going to allow me to express my fullness as
    a Soulful Self here in this life the way that I’m intended to.
  • If I lose a relationship or it appears that I’m losing something, it is because of the energetics of that
    dynamic is no longer serving me.
  • If something is rejecting me, it is because the universe is intervening and saying, ‘No thank you.
    That’s not your path.

You can start to claim this disposition of recognizing that every single thing that occurs in your life is in support of you. It is a change in your perspective that will change every single aspect of your day, your year, your decade, and your entire lifetime.”

Notes for the Heart

When we are grateful for the tough and the worst lessons we’ve lived through in our personal life and experience; when we believe that it happens the way it does for our highest good, we can then keep showing up and shining our light! What changes? everything! we see, feel, think and live life differently – this is why I am talking about this, to experience contentment, happiness, love and so on, this is certainly a guaranteed way to start. This way of thinking has turned my life around, just as Dr Sue and Livia Terra ‘say’.

From my heart to yours, what have you got to lose by experimenting with life for a while with this mind?

I know what it did for me, I have and still practice this every day. Thinking this way helps me every time again and again.

Below I will add the links that will take you to Brave Livia Terra’s book and Dr. Sue’s download page, I wish I had read it, or that I knew just that much… much earlier in my life. Lol, don’t we all?

Why making a difference – matters

Why does making a difference, sharing or giving matter? is so important? Many believe and I certainly do too because I’ve experienced it, that while receiving is great! Giving is Divine.

It is not ‘what’ we give per see that matters it is the “intention we hold” rather… and vibrate “that is the difference between being in giving mode,  expecting mode or receiving mode!

When we live to make a difference, we co-habit in that space of the heart that’s tuned to truth and the most authentic and pure frequency of acceptance and surrender.  The frequency of Love is the most powerful vibration.

Notes for the heart

When a gift is sincere, from the heart the effect is amplified and vibrates within us way before it reaches the recipient. That is the effect that the connections between sharing/giving ~ receiving/sharing have, in the way that makes giving really magical to our inner-self, the inward and within ourselves miracle that manifests when it is then offered to another outwardly, free of attachments, unconditional. Just as we would describe unconditional Love.

If you think you have nothing to give because all you have received was shit, then now is the perfect time for a change of mind, a change of heart –  because it is now that you *get to know better* the time to understand and experience it.

Message for the Heart :

Love is the most powerful Vibration

Message for the Heart

The value of giving unconditionally is in the experience we provide to everyone that comes our way, be it for a reason, a season or for a lifetime.

Sometimes we attract directly or indirectly those that need our gift or at times they come into our path through a crossroad, coincidences, synchronicities somehow.  Other times people merely bump into us and just a smile makes the difference; Such a word someone needed to hear; A chair we vacate to offer a cripple or anyone,  simply just because they need more than we do,  like helping an elderly cross the street for example.

The gifts that matter most are those that make the biggest difference and we never knew they would;  that is just why they are divine, simplistic gestures,  that may well be a matter of life and death,  They may look and sound ordinary, mundane but still they are the source of a beautiful exchange nonetheless.

It is key to acknowledge that what happens to us, has a bigger purpose, even if we do not understand it at first, receive it, it is the kinda gift that passes on the human legacy and experience, this is when giving and receiving, happen at once, simultaneously.

“if you can turn any bad situation into a healing session, you grow exponentially”

by Livia Terra ( From the “Brave” book)

In order to make it happen, in order for it to happen, practice gratitude, humbleness, generosity, kindness, vulnerability like you would a sport, yoga or meditation. It is safe.

The expectation of getting something in return is a dead end.

I am talking about the energetic field your heart taps into and the act of giving and receiving are one and the same and hence the gift itself is both for the giver, and receiver, pure, raises our vibration which in turn floods the heart with tingling sensations, the popular say feeling butterflies in your belly.

It is from that space in my heart that I am here sharing with you this gift.

” I will always have one foot in gratitude, and I will always have the other foot stepping into desire- Always”

by Simone Hodgins.

I wish nothing less for you, I do want just this for you too because my purpose is to hold every hand I can, and wish that every hand I hold go onto holding more hands themselves.  It is a gift we can share with one another, and as we keep ascending, more get to experience the gift of inspiration and liberation! I invite you to deposit love into your emotional bank account so there is more to give one another.

Like Simone says keep one foot in gratitude and the other in your desire, for as long as we desire to share the heart’s message, we too shall live in gratitude.

As promised

Book Brave by Livia Terra If you would like to check it out or purchase click Here  ( I absolutely loved reading this book – Magnificent! for $ five dollars? It is a GIFT!! far more valuable than 5 dollars, that is a fact.

Then subscribe to download Dr. Sue Mortar’s free ebook The Top 3 Mistakes That Keep You From Fulfillment & Flow. (Available for free for a limited time.) Note that at the bottom of the same page, you can also reserve your seat absolutely free for her upcoming 90-Minute Online Webinar about the 3 Secrets to Syncing Up Your Super Powers: How to experience the happiness, vibrant health, love, fulfillment you deserve in 2021 also by Dr. Sue Mortar. Here. I enjoyed it and I  ]have a feeling, you will too.

Stay blessed, Stay put, in love, for love, with love & Sparkles for your amazingness!!

Letting go

Riches within your Reach

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Life Happens for you

Life Happens for you

Life happens for you all the time whether you want to help yourself or not. Your potential is always at your hands’ reach. Life happens for you to evolve mentally and spiritually and so both positive and negative are necessary for the journey, that it is.

Let’s talk about healing the heart, and  so let me ask you:

  • What are you harvesting from your life?
  • Where have you been storing your crop (emotions)?
  • Are you reaping what you planted?
  • What did you reap? or better said, ” what did you plant”? Are you satisfied?

Did you get something beneficial, meaningful from when your existence began, to right now… after all we reap as consequences of our actions or lack of it for that matter.

This is not a matter of how hard or if you tried at all as I bet you’ve always tried and have tried very hard, This is to bring to light the emotions that we usually disassociate ourselves for the most various reasons. It is the accumulation of these that we overload our emotional bank account.

Life Happens for you: Emotional Investment

Life has that facet too, but when we invest we reap the benefits of that investment.  Now talking about your emotional life investment, what are the benefits you’re reaping from that investment?

You hold the power, it is you that choose if you want to plant a new crop, and therefore decide to make a new investment or not, just as you reap the benefits or not, one is proportional to the other. Everything you choose to do and be from now on… it is up to you, only you owe it to yourself, seriously nobody could even if they tried very hard make you happy, just as you could not make anyone else happy,  you can not be responsible for anyone’s mental stability, nor for their joy,  contentment nonetheless their happiness. When we become conscious of our ways and behaviors we can change them.

Life Happens for you when you live towards becoming the best version of you

Life Happens for you

Whatever that version is, is the one you create and therefore live it. From this point on, you can no longer pretend that you did not know ‘that you have the choice’ because now… you know you do.

  • What do you want to plant forward?
  • What do you want to get more of?

That is entirely your choice… I’m not saying what is or is not good here, right or wrong, it is whatever you want it to be, but with the condition that it should make you, content, in peace, serene, enjoying life, on your own terms for as long as you enjoy it! if you can imagine it, you can make it real… and you feel it. We each have the answer,  in the mind, and heart… Screwing up is common and ordinary, we get over it.

Can we invest in Shame, Guilt, and Self-criticism and expect to reap Pride, Confidence,  joy, or self-worth?

Change begins when you know Life Happens for you, not to you.

We don’t have to be or feel miserable for a lifetime,

We just have to go about it differently.

Self-respect, Truth, Authenticity, Loyalty, Forgiveness, Vulnerability are all part of what it means to  Love yourself.  When you love who you are, you can not hurt yourself. A kind relationship is what you want with yourself, plant it and you shall reap more of it. Wanting to help yourself is being mindful that opening the door to your awakening is an investment to self-growth.


Everything else is a diversity of blame, let it be a reminder that we can see and recognize our own divinity.  Divinity is a gift that is granted to all of us, it does not depend on whether we deserve it or not. Take the chance to see this, let go of pretending that the life you want is too far from your grasp.  Dull people, good people, bad people, and whatever other stereotypes are just labels. The focus should be instead on you, not the judgment, the focus should be on what you want more of and desire and not on what you don’t have. Inner divinity itself has the same potential for you, and everyone else that chooses it.

Life Happens for you

You do not need to deserve to see yourself in a better light! You do not need permission to like and grow fonder of yourself.  To reclaim, recognize yourself amidst your Greatness,  all you need is to stop denying it to yourself.

How bad your experience has been and how horrific, traumatic the ordeals and dramas you have had, all of it matters, by all means. I respect that and take my hat off to you. I sympathize, I hear you.

You matter, your life matter, the message, your footprints shall perpetuate your legacy. You don’t need to be special to count or matter, your experience in life is the story you tell and you are the treasure itself.

How do you plan to go from here on? now that you’ve come this far, it does not matter “the point per see” that point is anywhere, wherever you are at, it is here and now, how do you choose to engage with yourself from here and now onwards?  How absurd would it be after all that now, after everything you have been through, everything! and then choose to rather let it destroy you? Does not make sense right? The purpose of all the ordeals we go through is to strengthen us.

“Healing is being grateful for “the past”  because from 


today you can decide to be the one that makes everybody feel like somebody” 

The way you show up is the way you share your past experiences with others, it is your truth, you have been there, and you have lived it, nothing can wipe it out nor can you pretend it never happened – that I am afraid you have no power over.

The power is on the story that you carry about yourself for others.

The value is that you figured a way to survive through it, and became stronger than you were before the experience.

The purpose is to share in honor of your experience for the benefit of others.

The message in – lieu of your failures is the gift you have to give proudly and freely. You can make a difference one life at a time. When you carry lessons forward instead of burdens from the past,  you live lighter more grateful allowing exponentially more of what you desire to manifest into your life.

I believe we must allow self-time to process the past, grief, and heal the wounds. It is a must however to remember that stagnation is not an option.  The cycle can only end when we let go of what no longer serves us.

The story we write holds the power, the script becomes the value it can add to others’ life,  overcoming the fear of being vulnerable is healing because now you can pass on the formula you’ve learned,  and so you shine. When you help others shine, your light shines brighter.

My beauty is the difference I make when I enlighten someone else through their journey because I have been there. That is the line between living a great life or a miserable one. That is the line between your internal dialogue to success or failure, you are deserving of who you desire to become.

Life happens for you

 And PLeases where it goes

Going further be easy on yourself, practice not beating yourself or at least not too hard, to begin with, be kind, generous, loving to yourself just as you are with others.

The journey may be a long one, or not, depend on how deep you’ve rooted your limiting beliefs,  how willing and committed you are to ” your healing process” while connecting body, mind, and spirit. It requires strength, focus, determination, sometimes it requires more than you thought you could ever handle! Yet you did. The success of this process relies on your perseverance.

When you are serious and committed to healing you empower yourself and learn the meaning to want to help yourself and others.

Healing your heart (emotions)  is to uplift yourself, it is to become a free spirit, joyful emotionally, and mentally. It is to show up in your own life as your best friend.  My experience proved to me over and over again that no one can help anyone UNLESS help is what they choose for themselves.

If none of that is what you want, or not just YET, or you need a while longer to leek your wounds that is ok too. I want you to know that however long it takes up until you are ready, you are not alone.

It is bad to decay, destroy and not care for ourselves when it is a matter of choice. However, keep in mind that it is more so cruel for those that love us, yet have to watch us, no one deserves to witness that, and neither should you!

I hope you can honestly say ‘ I have the life I envisioned for myself, I am going to show up to the universe, humble to learn what I need to learn and my story is glorious. My story is faithful to my truth!

Life Happens for you

I wish that for you, from this moment on…

“Some people believe that life is happening to them, and because of this, they get weighed down when something bad happens,” as Tony says “Other people believe that life is happening for them and that each incident — good or bad — is shaping them into the person they’re meant to become. Which one would you rather be? If it’s the latter, it’s time to change your mindset.” Written by David Meerman Scott on January 9th, 2019

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It is the resistance to change that makes us suffer.

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My picture of money

My picture of money

My picture of money


If I could change My picture of money, and my relationship with it, so can you.

The Money world up until recently has been somewhat more of an internal conflict for me.

It has always been an awkward feeling, I was stagnated in the idea that to deserve money one has to work a lot and really very hard. When not the case then, getting money was an unethical sort of thing!? Like the ‘Easy come, easy go’ kind of thing. Don’t we hear this a lot? Sure, this is what I resonated with,  it did not come easy to me.

For 4 decades and many reasons, finances have always been a struggle. Regardless of how hard I worked, literally to the point of exhaustion. After so many years of it, something had to give,  ended up with a chronic illness. Mental exhaustion for one racked emotionally second and physically ill consequently – in one word – Depleted!

My limiting belief and My picture of money

Ask me ‘why’ we hold onto limiting beliefs about money and I personally can not give you a straight answer.  Money has always been somewhat connected to guilt for me, had to be spent very wisely, certainly not on the ‘wants’ only on the  ‘essential needs’.

I grew up in poverty, due to a civil war, with a bare minimum of everything, and even food was a luxury, by food was a luxury, I mean any food! My work for money exchange began when I was around 14.

Fast forward I’ve been an entrepreneur,  owned medium to small successful businesses along the way, and failures too off course.

Over time I figured therefore that my struggle, after all,  was with “Receiving”! My life experience has actually taught me that we don’t need to be rich money-wise, in order to help others. The act of giving without expectations other than perhaps, ‘being appreciated’ need no words. The act of exchange something for appreciation is not an expectation if you think of it. But more a form of communication beyond words. It is a feeling hard to describe, but it feeds the soul – connects us to our core essence.

My quest is to learn to receive or the least find the balance between:

‘Giving’ as I believe everyone no matter the circumstance, has something to give – always and

‘Receiving’ as I believe now that, it no longer translates as being or not deserving matter.

Receiving anything is a Grace

even though Giving is Divine

(My picture of money )

In short, I’ve come to believe that it is about flow, motion…  rivers flows…  stagnated water is murky, rotten, or perhaps smelly.  So do we “figuratively” that is, in the sense that physical, mental, and emotional stagnation is always devastating to some degree.

Money is no different, it is a currency of exchange keeping it flowing is not unethical in any way, in my opinion now, for as long as it is ethically given & received (as help or earned) – the exchange value must flow between all parties.

I believe that in an exchange of any sort when the offer is sincere, of pure intent, and from the heart, it’s then solid. As solid as when ‘a hand shake’ sealed a deal, days when loyalty, honor did strive for intact integrity for example.

This is the simplest way I could humbly convey the idea of attraction/manifestation, and all I can say is that manifesting something into your lives, such as money, friendships, relationships, love, etc is as simple or complicated as we make it to be.

Kimberly Zapata mentioned “The Secret sold more than 30 million copies—and it’s something that thought leaders, including Deepak ChopraEckhart TolleGabrielle BernsteinIyanla Vanzant, and Oprah have spoken about. (For the record, they all agree that you really can manifest things.)”

‘It was then when I was open-minded that the truth revealed itself

(My picture of money)

It is all a matter of our conditioning through life that sediments and sets up all the preconceived ideas that we have. These are personal and individual overall pictures, in other words, it is “how we each view it”  in short, the “limiting belief system we sustain”.

Cultivating and Nurturing an idea and creating a good relationship, sets everything in motion- the beginning of the whole process if I may say, and so you conceive, fertilize, visualize, then we project and manifest – That is essentially the shift I am talking about, the universe does take care of the rest.

So I came to the conclusion that perhaps the opposite is also true and it is not harder, that we should work, but rather ” “Smarter”. As far as the receiving is concerned it is true for me that ” When we are open to receive, we have more to give”!

My picture of money

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From Loneliness to Solitude

From Loneliness to Solitude

From Loneliness to Solitude came from asking my daughter what she thought would be currently a pertinent topic in the next post, with no hesitation … she answered loneliness. Due to isolation, quarantines, lockdowns that we are experiencing globally, it sure became relevant more so now, so it is.

For those who need this brought to light,  I wish it leads you to experience the shift of solitude and self-connection. Who knows some of us get to connect a few dots of our own. The more we relate to something, the easier we find the missing pieces for life’s ‘puzzle’. Adding on the number of those that get the insight, that loneliness isn’t just what it appears to be. It’s a blessing in disguise! and so I thought I should give it a try.

From Loneliness to Solitude

Loneliness has a lot of layers and depths, some very deeply rooted. As we know… loneliness lives in every heart, we all experience it one way or another.

How do we relate to Loneliness?

From Loneliness to Solitude

We feel alone for different reasons, we experience it differently too. At times not only can we relate to this we can sense it similarly too;

The image we have of loneliness’s

From Loneliness to Solitude

Anguish, Torment does feel very, very real for us, myself included, however still is an illusion nonetheless.

Albert Einstein says, “Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” Folks, I’m definitely not saying that we are all delusional ok? well…

From Loneliness to Solitude

Suppose everything has two sides to it. Negative and Positive, why is it that the negatives are always the focus of our attention and the positive may or may never come to light?

When we stress and curse ourselves, we miss the opportunity to be kind and grateful to ourselves.

The mindset of Loneliness

Being alone does not mean feeling alone, or being a loner, we can experience spells of it and feel blessed about it. The point is that in disguise, loneliness holds the potential to teach us something, it is thanks to shadow moments of our life that we awake and often connect with our inner self.
We’re all navigating through life as best we know, wake up, show up and turn your experience into something constructive.
Learn to be content in your own skin, in your own company, enjoy your presence, apologize if you have to, accept and forgive yourself and others. Plant the seed that you will harvest a relationship with the “Self”, after all, we reap what we sow isn’t it? Think of it on a personal level too.

  • Never break the promise to nurture and love the person that you’re
  • Don’t let yourself down, pay particular attention here, accepting yourself is regaining your power, our internal dialogue makes, breaks or in the least stagnates us.
  • It is because we have a healthy relationship with ourselves that we understand that we have weaknesses too, who doesn’t?
  • We have negative facets just as we have many positive ones.
  • Being able to mentally and emotionally feel this as true, recognize who you truly are.

Convincing ourselves that everyone else is great, except us, no one else has weaknesses except us, but especially that we have the most negative facets because ‘they’re’ better than me and so more positive too… and you? become negative instead?

“You behold your truth”From Loneliness to Solitude

When we can’t see anything good about ourselves, you know it is urgent that you give yourself your full attention.  There is no reason that can possibly justify us seeing nothing good about ourselves.

All programs can have their settings changed to a different default. How?

When yours is set to see negative only, then that is all you will see, of course.

Generally speaking, the opinion we create about ourself, and the ‘limiting beliefs’ we let grow within… are the reason & excuse paradigm, the very same ones that stagnate and limit us. Yes or no? For the good of all, I wish more of us could understand this in some way. This is the mindset of Loneliness.

From Loneliness to Solitude

What does then the other side of  Loneliness … looks like? As in for the purpose of shifting from Loneliness to Solitude?

When we say goodbye to Loneliness and welcome  Solitude. 

When there is no relationship, or there is a bad relationship between you and your inner self, your internal dialogue is demeaning, offensive, and oppressive, oftentimes trashing the self, and all you do is beating yourself and so likely those around you as well. Why would you want to be a friend of yourself right? why would anyone else? See what happens? Loneliness looks like that.

We are all guilty of this at times. We get in our own way: I don’t do for “myself” what I would for everyone else.

Your power is that you can flip to the other side of it,  at any time you wish. Fill up your emotional bank account first because you can not give what you don’t have. Peace of Mind.

Choose to believe, appreciate and love ourselves – Be open, honest, authentic, generous, and speak from the heart.                

  • Shifted focus,
  • Sparked desires
  • Better reality,

The universe takes care of the rest

Give a shot at be-friending yourself again, at becoming your closest friend that possesses all the great qualities, the qualities you see in them as being yours too, forever and you will never be alone another day. That’s one of many experiences of solitude. You are magnificent, love and crave every time you can spend alone, doing the things you like to do alone. Being with yourself, in your own company, and never feel alone!

Have the Courage to Stand Alone (Find True Belonging) by  Brené Brownis linked to the video. This is a must-watch.

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It is love, of course, that guides the reorganization and its unfolding.  But it is love, too, that is the substance of the ashes, and also the tears, the tears of grief and the tears of love.  If the tears could speak, they may tell us that there is no medicine in a wound that is already healed, but only in                                            one that is weeping.”                                           Matt Licata PhD

From Loneliness to Solitude

Solitude is joy while loneliness is the pain of being alone. While Solitude can be Desired, Loneliness is Unwanted. The links below couldn’t be better written and may enlighten those that care to understand, wish to find or get in touch again and spark or start a relationship with themselves.

Is solitude a good or bad thing?

” Solitude is an essential component of your health and well-being. … In fact, building more solitude into your daily life might actually reduce feelings of loneliness. Solitary skills take practice if you’re not used to being alone, but over time, you can grow more comfortable with being by yourself.

Emotionally speaking, in Loneliness the talk of the mind speaks of sadness, hurt, pain again and again, in Solitude even though you are still alone, you don’t feel alone, you’re with yourself; silencing the mind ‘chatter’ is so much easier than you think.  “Mind chatter” negative thoughts inhibit our life experience. Hinders inner- peace, and our sense of belonging.

Give yourself time every day for self-reflection, see how craving to be left alone ( solitude), is not the same as feeling unwanted9 loneliness).

5 Ways Solitude can make you more successful and 5 Ways to transform your loneliness into enjoyable solitude

The difference between the two is that in Loneliness the mind ‘talks’ to the emotions loudly, seriously in all sorts of thoughts that lead to emotions that are the least desirable,  but in Solitude, the mind is quiet, in this silence, you can listen to the Soul guiding you to joy.

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Story of Anger

Story of Anger

 Story of Anger

Story of Anger is a brilliant illustration of what goes on, in our life with reference to our emotions.

Ancient Philosopher Chuang Tzu says that if we are crossing a river, and an empty boat comes towards us, we will not get angry. We will gently guide the boat away. However, if we think there is someone in the boat, we will likely scream and yell at the person to steer clear.
Our Anger arises because we think someone is in the boat.
The goal he suggests is to empty our boat, empty our notions of self and others. The tendency is of course to prove that we are better than those who we oppose. Be a better separate self –

  Is the Story always that personal?    Story of Anger

I believe that more often than not, we do take things too personally, we take words too personal, work too personal, and on it goes, ´he says she says´ story if it is not what you say, it is how you say it. Misinterpretations turn into actions that become a by-product of anger, a fire that burns, that inflicts hurt, pain, and distress. Is it not time we may at least try to not take ´everything´ so personally? so seriously? or as an attack that robs the smile off our faces on a daily basis? Can a simple comment, thought, word, message, picture, and expression have in itself the power that causes such distress? the answer is yes, we all have experienced anger in one way or another… how is it possible to change, if anger is someone else´s fault? Is this your story?

What´s my Story

I´ve been just as guilty along the way, the only time we can change the future outcome… is NOW, that is pretty much my story resumed. Only I am responsible for my happiness, my happiness is my responsibility and no one else’s, my peace of mind, body health, and spiritual contentment are mine to take care of, nurture, and only I am in charge. Blaming someone else is like inflicting more of the exact same thing over and over again and expecting different results. I choose to allow myself to re-write my story every time something changes, is this your story too?

I have made mistakes along my journey, many actually, I have and still do miss some opportunities’ life brings my way to create a better story and so, when that is the case, I re-write my story! the change is not so much about the content of what I say in my story… Or the events (those I cannot control) but more so because of how we say it. How we each describe it. How we each portray it. Do I honor myself? Is my story as authentic as I tell it, in which way does my story make a difference by sharing it with someone else? When and why is my story worthwhile telling others.

All Stories, memories ´good´ and ´bad´, are meaningful

From the hardest trials, we learn the most valuable lessons, it is here that we evolve the most, and also when sharing is then worthwhile. Good stories shared tend to be celebrations, of joy, it elevates you, brings laughter, a collective communion, yet both or either one add a glimpse of hope, that makes a difference in someone´s life. It is then when we know that we are not merely regurgitating stories for the sake of it, but rather for and with a purpose. Sharing is a reminder that one way or another, we all leave footprints.

 Anger rises because we think someone is on the boat

When all is taken too personal, the story is always and mostly one of a VICTIM. It is true, I agree 100%, and I validate that we are witnesses of the cruelty and survivors of the most horrifying crimes, but holding on to it, serves no purpose. Repeating our story over and over for pity, like a broken record, offers nothing, means nothing, it is full and yet so empty, so charged and yet so flat, perpetuates the pain instead of being liberating, it gives away your power instead of being itself powerful. WE become invisible, boring to others, alone! We stay Angry and always right, what is the value in it, how can we possibly capitalize on contentment, freedom, or anything good for that matter, that way.

The good news is that choice is the key to change. Rewriting our story is a privilege that every single one of us is granted. That is right! it is a matter of choice. The story you tell others about yourself is meant to be told in a way that elevates you and others. Whereas demeaning stories will affect not only your dignity and self-respect but further sinks you into the depth of darkness.

We are all in the boat called Story of life

Regardless of how small, how tiny, or minuscule an achievement was/is, every single experience has the potential to carry a powerful message, the potential to make a difference. Can we agree that it is then part of our personal “growth” and worth the limelight rather than focus our efforts in trying to prove that we are better than those who we oppose when we “take” everyone and everything personally? Growth at a personal level adds meaning to life, while taking everything personally, takes away the meaning.

Does It Matter, Why?

Yes, it does, I individually choose to change my story because, the story I tell not only is beneficial for my mind, body, and spiritual well-being as it is also meant to inspire others, the collective well-being because we all have been or are going through similar experiences and need a friendly word just like you are here reading this story. I hope that if it does not put a smile on your face, it at least makes some sense.

So, What´s your Story

Let your story represent who you are today!! Be loyal, authentic, caring, and gentle with your Self. I remind each one of us, myself included that we´re the Ambassadors of our legacy. The footprints that we leave during our journey in this lifetime, one way or another have and or will touch, impact directly or indirectly those going through similar experiences as ours, like mine. Make it worthwhile.

So, don´t take life so seriously, have some fun and enjoy the process, take things less and less personally.

The choice to change is the precise key and the same tool you, me, everyone have, to re-write our stories and make a difference.

Your choice of Story        

When you are crossing the river of life, remember to empty your boat. You don´t become what others think of you, just as no one became what you thought of them.

Judgment only subtracts from your experience. “You cannot pour milk out of a jar, without ´there being ‘milk in the jar in the first place”; just as we can not pour anger at someone if there was no anger inside us in the first place!

No one triggers or presses the wrong button… choose to change your story instead.

The best version of your story is the best version of you. Let yourself shine, you don´t need to deserve to shine, you shine because we are energy, the matter is how bright you´re shining, here and now. The choice is entirely yours. We´re diamonds, all of us, it is just a matter of polishing each of its facets one at a time, that my friend, you are allowed to do, without permission.

Be your own kind of beautiful! Be the best version you can be.

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Transformation from within

Transformation from within

The Transformation from within is like a caterpillar transforming into a butterfly or a seed into a beautiful flower. Either process has its time and so does the process of change or Transformation from within.

Three valuable steps in the process of Transformation from within

  • Discover your own limiting beliefs, misconceived ideas, characteristics, personality traits.
  • Expose what you think of yourself, and your perception about what others think of you.
  • Uncover what you think you should be, should look or should not be, or not look like.

Ultimately, we create the believes that surround us as well as others, and these may well be very different from who we really are at our core essence.

Being whole includes our flows, failures, falling all that, moreover, that is all that it is about, I don’t apologize for not being perfect? why should anyone?

It is equally important that we do not regret being who we are, in fact, we aren’t even everything we think we are anyway.

“The ‘next moment’ only happens when the one before is left behind so that the new can unfold for us”.

What we think, envision, sense, and or perceive is carried or released, expressed or compressed, within or amongst ourselves,  through an invisible energy field.

Without Authenticity, there is no Transformation from within

“Authenticity means we’re true to our own personality, values, and spirit, regardless of the pressure that we’re under to act otherwise”. It means being honest with ‘self’ and also with others as a result. Authentic people take responsibility for their mistakes.


Who we´re and what we become is a by-product of our thoughts, views, emotions, belief systems, experiences, challenges, actions, etc.

When we grasp this concept, we consequently also understand that taking ownership and responsibility for our actions is crucial to achieving the overall well-being that we seek. While what others say to us or about us maybe or not be relevant at times, the fact is that ultimately we are the choice makers.

We often repeat negative thoughts, lie to ourselves so many times that eventually we believe them; In fact, if we believe what we think, which we do pretty often, then the choice when it comes to our thoughts or believes is also only just ours right !? Not only do we judge and beat ourselves, but we’re also likely our hardest critics, as a result, we are a product of our own doing.

Mindfulness is Transformation from within

What if, we begin minding and being more thoughtful, careful with what we tell ourselves via our internal thoughts, as well as others via our Words?

Since we have the choice of control, then what are you thinking and creating in your life right now?

Self-Love, Respect, Forgiveness are my best friends in my journey, the best version of me depends on it, why do I resist, fight and fear Change then?

What are your fears? What is blocking you from moving forward?

Transformation from within

Patience, gratitude, self-love, care, generosity, humbleness each is a practice on its own. Often we’re excellent at some of those qualities yet there is always more to learn and practice every day as every moment is a revelation and evolves constantly. We know that we evolve when we change our thoughts, actions, behavior towards others and ourselves, don’t we?

Furthermore when there is harmony energy flows effortlessly through our physical, mental, and emotional selves. When in synchronicity, connected communicating we know who we’re meant to be. We’re evolving human beings, not perfect ones.

Becoming one with ‘ body-mind-spirit is fulfilling and crucial for our wellbeing and contentment. The Journey is the opportunity itself. A potential that is meant to serve us, in our favor not to our detriment. Transformation is lots of small changes that happen as we take action towards fulfilling our desires.

    Life is our creation – Transformation from within is where it begins

Do you underestimate the power that negative emotions and limiting beliefs have on you? 

Can anyone argue that we are not 100% authentic with ourselves? with our feelings? believes, likes, dislikes, and so on?

At times we aren’t heard. We feel neglected, undermined, rejected, judged, often we say Yes when No it is. We can only get what we have the courage to ask for.

For instance, we go against our own beings to be accepted, to please others. We go to any lengths to avoid conflict and be liked. Cause of the internal conflict, discontentment, illness that not only-but also impacts us negatively in all levels. How many of us are not guilty of that?

The transformation from within = Take responsibility

It is up to each individual to free themselves and stop sacrificing their own essence in exchange for acknowledgment, worthiness, acceptance, and so on.

The sole responsibility to live a truthful, mindful, authentic life or not is on you. Blaming others is a sign of a lack of ownership and responsibility for our actions.

Grab and steer the wheel of your ship (life). Dedicate your time exploring all possibilities, be the best you can be at navigating through the obstacles and challenges, but equally important is that whatever you do, don´t settle for anything less than what you deserve.

       ‘YOU’ know what is beautiful? Read the first word again…

Transformation from within

Have you noticed how we compartmentalize, body, mind, and spirit? interesting right? the thought or memory, of the past events and experiences we´ve lived, bring up emotions… so one does not exist without the other, they evolve together believe it or not.

Body, mind, spirit co-exist, they are inter-linked ¨as one” and connected! 

We go through life conflicted, confused, lost, faithless, fearful pretty much disconnected. Fear is paralyzing and handicapping if you think of it. Change is not losing anything it is in fact gaining.

Change is evolving as Transformation is from within

Persevere living outside the bubble of judgment, to see and accept who you are. Aligning with whom we’re and have been meant to be all along ‘a divine being’. Leak all your wounds but remember to always celebrate your divinity as is.

“If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail.” This is a famous quote by Abraham Maslow

Sadness, helplessness, anger, embarrassment, fear, frustration, disappointment, guilt, again and again, are all well known as to be the very same nails we hammer or have been hammering throughout our lives into ourselves?

The transformation from within means appreciating the little things about yourself

Transformation from within

We easily dismiss the power of small steps or small things, think about bacteria and viruses, for example, see how small they are? they go undetected yet they have the power to wipe out millions and destroy economies, right?

Are you ready for awesomeness?

It is also in the small and Insignificant gestures, attitudes, demeanor in which we do, see, or think about others and ourselves that we either give away or reclaim our power.

You do likely know that we depend on good bacteria for good health? Furthermore, not all bacteria are bad. In the realm of thoughts, beliefs, emotions are the same, drama, trauma, pain balance and harmony can also lead to fulfillment, great accomplishments, healings, miracles, and life changes.

Be Open and Welcome Change

What small changes do you need or can make today? Does your operating system require re-booting? updating? and or recovering to run at its full potential towards the fulfillment of your desires? I encourage personal growth, that you let loose the God/Goddess within; Moreover let go of your mask, to finally not only but also let self-expression, creativity, love be your guide.

Is transformation easy?

Who hasn’t experienced emotional pain in one way or another for example? Sometimes that pain takes forever to overcome too, often affecting entirely who we become. Aren’t we aware that it is never too late to change something, anything that no longer serves us?

  • There is nothing easy about digging old wounds to heal. Nothing of a kind is easy in this process, far from it.
  • acknowledging the need to heal
  • understanding what needs to be dealt with
  • shifting our perspective or views and forgiving

IT IS WORTH IT, let the past become the past, no victims, no hostages – It is a personal choice to embrace the self-healing and transformational journey.

¨Observe¨ all your miseries, what part of it defines you?  Let your healing process begin.

Transformation from within

Reminder: You do not have to do it alone. This website is intended to guide you. I would love you to find your path and enjoy your journey.

Healing is a decision just like one person can not stop eating for another to lose weight, no one else can transform nor change anything in your life for you. Only you can! In fact, I know you can however do YOU know it yourself?

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Use this to declutter your mind and soul, so you can live your best life!

Stay blessed, Stay put, in love, for love, with love & Sparkles for your amazingness!!

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Is there a Connection between BodyMindSpirit

Connection between BodyMindSpirit

The connection between BodyMindSpirit is personally tailored, individualized and balanced – regularly by ourselves. Or not at all which is what I then call stagnation in all 3 levels, physical, mental, and emotional.

  • When flowing (no blockages) there is harmony in which each feeds the other.
  • When connected (no disruption)  there is unison in which each understands the other
  • When balanced (no lack) there is a quality in which each complements the other

Connection between BodyMindSpirit

                                         This connection is                                                                      transformational & miraculous                              in so many ways

       Years researching, witnessing personal and humanity’s evolution, collective awareness, and expansion on the subject of mind-body-spirit connection have been a humbling experience, to say the least.

Considering the number of “answer seekers” like you and me, all the more we know that there have to be more to these emotional, mental and physical uphill’s & amp; downfalls;

Observing day-to-day the Pain from Mental stress, Emotional stresses, and physical depletedness going from a simple ailment to chronic illnesses of all sorts, sure brings a brutal reality to light, doesn’t it?

Did you know that Anger, Fear, Anxiety are just a ripple in the vast ocean of factors contributing to chronic illnesses, cancer, and so on?

Could we be that delusional for believing that our thoughts not only but also create emotional and physical distraught?

When “emotionally bankrupt, we are unable to function or make normal daily decisions without feeling depleted in all levels”. Dis-ease is “lack of ease or comfort and Disease is defined in the dictionary as a “disorder of structure or function in a human. Especially one that produces specific symptoms or that affects a specific location and is not simply a direct result of physical injury.

Can we remotely even say that there is a connection between,  Physical Mental, and Emotional triggers? Mental issues can trigger Emotional dis-ease and vice-versa? how about these affecting us physically? See where I am going?

  • Is it all just at the Body level that we experience these?
  • Is it all just at the Mind level that the experience occurs?
  • Is it just at the Emotional level that all happens?

We know there has to be more to it!? Do we act as if we see it from such a perspective? We simply succumb to the devastation that our life can become.

Mental, Emotional, Physical Scars

Any scar is bad. Emotional scars can at times be far worse than any physical ones. The Physical, Mental, and Emotional parts of us are interconnected.

Lack of any kind disrupts the harmony between them creating imbalances, blockages, or both that result in dis-ease and once ignored become a full-blown disease generally speaking.

I happen to have experienced it or else I could not talk about it.
When people talk about “unblocking” energy centers they refer to the idea that when they are open, energy can run through them freely, and harmony exists between the physical body, mind, and spirit.
Energy centers ou Chakra translates to “wheel” in Sanskrit, and they can be imagined as wheels or flowers of free-flowing positive energy.

I don’t think I would be exaggerating if I said that most of us experienced this imbalance‘, in one way or another a few times during life and differently so!       
connection between BodyMindSpirit    Learn how to bring yourself back to your body — with this online teaching Body and Mind Are One.

The Body is the Vessel for the Connection between BodyMindSpirit

Cherish it           

 Like me, many know that the body is our vessel. Mind, Emotions, and all that it entails residing in this magnificent, splendid, amazing body that we each have.

How is it working for you?

  • Is it free from blockages?
  • Is it flowing energy and exuding well-being?
  • Is it illness-free
  • Is it free from self-judgment?
  • Is it your reflection?

 How well are you allowing your body to serve you?

However good or not is what we make of it. Change is inevitable. Taking ownership and care of our vessel is only our job, no one else can do it on our behalf. Only you can, just like no one can stop eating for another to lose weight.

Broken vessels exist but if we can improve and don’t – we self inflict and enable our lack of self-maintenance.

The Mind is the Engine in the Connection between   BodyMindSpirit

Be Mindful

The voice of the mind is an engine with all-time access to the vessel and feelings. Often overpowering, neglecting, and disregarding the voice of the heart.

Our common sense always knows better but we often silence it, neglect it, or both to create the illusion of safety. Does self-preservation justify holding grudges, guilt,  revenge-seeking,  anger? We each hold the key to the freedom that we seek.

Let it be, Forgive to let it go

Correct I did mention Forgiveness alright…

Forgiveness does not mean wrong becomes right. Forgiveness is allowing the wrong to stay wrong while you free yourself.

We know that the “mind can very well create ” corroding thoughts. These have tremendous negative consequences,  impact on our life let alone on our emotional and physical wellbeing.

If our desire is to re-establish the Connection between BodyMindEmotion we have to forgive.

The mind knows the ego spends a lifetime suppressing our feelings and justifying.

We create and subject ourselves to cruelty when the mind takes no responsibility and ownership for its engine, starving the vessel and damaging the steering wheel.

 In this merry-go-round of set habits,  we decay and succumb to physical illness, emotional disorders, stagnation, etc.

While this is a common practice, it is no common sense. We´ve got to courageously break free from the toxicity of all sorts.

Making mistakes is human we are here to learn.

Be mindful, “If you think you are good, or you think you are bad, you are!”

“Broken minds can be healed just the way broken bones and broken hearts are healed,” said Elder Jeffrey R. Holland

Emotions are the steering wheel for the Connection between BodyMindSpirit

Validate your feelings

Connection between BodyMindSpirit

The embroil of emotions with thoughts have a toll on the body, in a way of serious conditions and diseases. Anorexia, Bulimia, Obesity,  addictions to mention just a few.

The belief system created over life by traumatic memories from such emotional abuse should be part of our emotional hygiene. when not… sadly sometimes it becomes irreversibly damaged. Our Beliefs can constrict us further into the prison that we confine our beings into, hence sabotaging our engine and vessel.

Studies show that your brain registers the emotional pain of heartbreak in the same way as physical pain, which is why you might feel like your emotional pain is causing actual physical hurt… “I feel like my heart’s been ripped out”, “it was gut-wrenching”, “like a slap in the face” – all hint at the way we associate physical pain with emotional pain. Excerpt from the science behind a broken heart

To deal with tragic and traumatic events we dissociate. This is a protection, safety system at our disposal from as early as childhood, and coping mechanism.

When some or most of these issues are then never dealt with they become toxic, it affects our lives and we don´t even realize the extent of it until very late. We are all seeking a little of the same here, each and all of us one way or another is seeking contentment, peace, love, acceptance, appreciation, and wellbeing.

Stay blessed, Stay put, in love, for love, with love & Sparkles for your amazingness!!


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There are endless techniques and alternative modalities available that are popular around the world which can definitely empower and transform the independent spiritual seeker. I call it “Bazar” precisely because of the diversity it implies.

The idea is to bring to you content that is informational, healing, fun, exciting, uplifting that I recommend. There are definitely many treasures to explore, music playlists, books, websites, videos to just mention a few. All this work is created by the most, tender-hearted, compassionate, kind, generous advanced souls (people) that truly care and share their knowledge to our benefit. I refer and or link you to the info, channels, websites, as in one way or another they have crossed my path and have had a positive and great impact at times on who I am today. Have you heard of the principle that “one candle does not lose its brightness for lighting another”?

So have a look around and discover more about yourself, your potential, your beautiful essence which is ultimately who you truly are, and let it just flourish.

“Be yourself, the Gift that leads others to become the best they can be. Be yourself, the change you would like to see in the heart of others. Just be YOU and inspire others!

Spread your wings, spread the light that is within you” and yours shall shine even bigger & brighter every single time.

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About Tania

First of all, a big thank you and welcome for being here – Body, Mind & Spirit Bazar Website.

Tania grew up during the 15+ year-long Mozambican political cold war and every possible limitation attached to it. A civil war that brought poverty, hunger, death to soo many. Her question about the meaning of life began 28 years ago when she lost her father to suicide at the age of 14, just before the end of the civil war, the (GPA) General Peace Agreement between the political parties Frelimo and Renamo, Oct 1992, and nothing then, made any sense to her.

At the age of 14/15, she got her first job.  Life turned upside down when she lost someone really close to her heart, the most loving and caring human being she had the blessing to have me, to Leukemia.

At 20 Tania got married, and as time went by, had 4 children, yet another loss, her baby. Needless to say, that it was an experience and a half as anyone may perhaps imagine;

At 34  a nasty divorce, and she’s been a single mother of 3, ever since.  Along the way, there have been a few more traumatic ordeals in her life, from being set up to face the idea and consequences of deportation, being stalked, to losing her business to a Super Con-Artist that, left her further crippled financially while he ” disappeared into thin air “.

While navigating through these experiences, and from all learned lessons, the hardest but by far the most rewarding was and is learning to be the best Mum to her 3 children as well a the only provider that she could possibly be!

She believes that her life is far from being the hardest, to know it, she says: ‘I just have to look around me, so… in short, this is the very reason  I am showing up here after all!’ She has lived through so much in the short span of her lifetime.

What a ride I must say, and so this is her, pleased to meet you.

Just the way you are

You are beautiful just the way you are,
You don’t need to be a superstar.
Don’t think you need to be someone else,
Because you brighten up this world by just being yourself.Just the sparkle in your eyes,
And that amazing smile.
Can make someone feel joyful,
And things are so wonderful. Even when you say hello,
The mood becomes mellow.
Being yourself is cool,
It isn’t about being who you’re not and acting like a fool. You all make me feel alive,
Even when I seem to have lost my light.
You make it come through,
By just being you! People like you make this world worth living in,
With all the laughter you bring.
Just the way you are,
Makes everything much better by Nell
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Stay blessed, Stay put, in love, for love, with love & Sparkles for your amazingness!!


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