From Loneliness to Solitude came from asking my daughter what she thought would be currently a pertinent topic in the next post, with no hesitation … she answered loneliness. Due to isolation, quarantines, lockdowns that we are experiencing globally, it sure became relevant more so now, so it is.
For those who need this brought to light, I wish it leads you to experience the shift of solitude and self-connection. Who knows some of us get to connect a few dots of our own. The more we relate to something, the easier we find the missing pieces for life’s ‘puzzle’. Adding on the number of those that get the insight, that loneliness isn’t just what it appears to be. It’s a blessing in disguise! and so I thought I should give it a try.
Loneliness has a lot of layers and depths, some very deeply rooted. As we know… loneliness lives in every heart, we all experience it one way or another.
How do we relate to Loneliness?
We feel alone for different reasons, we experience it differently too. At times not only can we relate to this we can sense it similarly too;
The image we have of loneliness’s
Anguish, Torment does feel very, very real for us, myself included, however still is an illusion nonetheless.
Albert Einstein says, “Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” Folks, I’m definitely not saying that we are all delusional ok? well…
Suppose everything has two sides to it. Negative and Positive, why is it that the negatives are always the focus of our attention and the positive may or may never come to light?
When we stress and curse ourselves, we miss the opportunity to be kind and grateful to ourselves.
The mindset of Loneliness
Being alone does not mean feeling alone, or being a loner, we can experience spells of it and feel blessed about it. The point is that in disguise, loneliness holds the potential to teach us something, it is thanks to shadow moments of our life that we awake and often connect with our inner self.
We’re all navigating through life as best we know, wake up, show up and turn your experience into something constructive.
Learn to be content in your own skin, in your own company, enjoy your presence, apologize if you have to, accept and forgive yourself and others. Plant the seed that you will harvest a relationship with the “Self”, after all, we reap what we sow isn’t it? Think of it on a personal level too.
- Never break the promise to nurture and love the person that you’re
- Don’t let yourself down, pay particular attention here, accepting yourself is regaining your power, our internal dialogue makes, breaks or in the least stagnates us.
- It is because we have a healthy relationship with ourselves that we understand that we have weaknesses too, who doesn’t?
- We have negative facets just as we have many positive ones.
- Being able to mentally and emotionally feel this as true, recognize who you truly are.
Convincing ourselves that everyone else is great, except us, no one else has weaknesses except us, but especially that we have the most negative facets because ‘they’re’ better than me and so more positive too… and you? become negative instead?
When we can’t see anything good about ourselves, you know it is urgent that you give yourself your full attention. There is no reason that can possibly justify us seeing nothing good about ourselves.
All programs can have their settings changed to a different default. How?
When yours is set to see negative only, then that is all you will see, of course.
Generally speaking, the opinion we create about ourself, and the ‘limiting beliefs’ we let grow within… are the reason & excuse paradigm, the very same ones that stagnate and limit us. Yes or no? For the good of all, I wish more of us could understand this in some way. This is the mindset of Loneliness.
What does then the other side of Loneliness … looks like? As in for the purpose of shifting from Loneliness to Solitude?
When we say goodbye to Loneliness and welcome Solitude.
When there is no relationship, or there is a bad relationship between you and your inner self, your internal dialogue is demeaning, offensive, and oppressive, oftentimes trashing the self, and all you do is beating yourself and so likely those around you as well. Why would you want to be a friend of yourself right? why would anyone else? See what happens? Loneliness looks like that.
We are all guilty of this at times. We get in our own way: I don’t do for “myself” what I would for everyone else.
Your power is that you can flip to the other side of it, at any time you wish. Fill up your emotional bank account first because you can not give what you don’t have. Peace of Mind.
Choose to believe, appreciate and love ourselves – Be open, honest, authentic, generous, and speak from the heart.
- Shifted focus,
- Sparked desires
- Better reality,
The universe takes care of the rest
Give a shot at be-friending yourself again, at becoming your closest friend that possesses all the great qualities, the qualities you see in them as being yours too, forever and you will never be alone another day. That’s one of many experiences of solitude. You are magnificent, love and crave every time you can spend alone, doing the things you like to do alone. Being with yourself, in your own company, and never feel alone!
Have the Courage to Stand Alone (Find True Belonging) by Brené Brown ← is linked to the video. This is a must-watch.
6 Principles For Befriending Yourself: Part I- Matt Licata, Jeff Foster https://resources.soundstrue.com/blog/6-principles-for-befriending-yourself-part-i/ I highly recommend this article
Excerpt: “Here is a principle that has the potential to change your life, if you really take it in: ” TRUE HEALING HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH GETTING RID OF “NEGATIVE” THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS. TRUE HEALING HAPPENS WHEN WE ACTUALLY STOP “TRYING” TO HEAL ALTOGETHER, LET GO OF “HEALING” AS A DESTINATION, AND SURRENDER TO THE PRESENT MOMENT OF LIFE, HOWEVER INTENSE OR UNCOMFORTABLE IT IS. THERE IS UNEXPECTED MEDICINE HIDDEN INSIDE THIS “ALCHEMICAL MIDDLE,” THE WISDOM OF YOUR OWN HEART, RELEASED WHEN YOU TURN BACK TOWARD YOURSELF IN A MOMENT WHEN YOU NEED YOURSELF MORE THAN EVER.” Jeff Foster, Matt Licata
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“It is love, of course, that guides the reorganization and its unfolding. But it is love, too, that is the substance of the ashes, and also the tears, the tears of grief and the tears of love. If the tears could speak, they may tell us that there is no medicine in a wound that is already healed, but only in one that is weeping.” Matt Licata PhD
Solitude is joy while loneliness is the pain of being alone. While Solitude can be Desired, Loneliness is Unwanted. The links below couldn’t be better written and may enlighten those that care to understand, wish to find or get in touch again and spark or start a relationship with themselves.
Is solitude a good or bad thing?
” Solitude is an essential component of your health and well-being. … In fact, building more solitude into your daily life might actually reduce feelings of loneliness. Solitary skills take practice if you’re not used to being alone, but over time, you can grow more comfortable with being by yourself.
Emotionally speaking, in Loneliness the talk of the mind speaks of sadness, hurt, pain again and again, in Solitude even though you are still alone, you don’t feel alone, you’re with yourself; silencing the mind ‘chatter’ is so much easier than you think. “Mind chatter” negative thoughts inhibit our life experience. Hinders inner- peace, and our sense of belonging.
Give yourself time every day for self-reflection, see how craving to be left alone ( solitude), is not the same as feeling unwanted9 loneliness).
The difference between the two is that in Loneliness the mind ‘talks’ to the emotions loudly, seriously in all sorts of thoughts that lead to emotions that are the least desirable, but in Solitude, the mind is quiet, in this silence, you can listen to the Soul guiding you to joy.
Stay blessed, Stay put, in love, for love, with love & Sparkles for your amazingness!!
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