Whispers from one Heart to another
Whispers from one Heart to another heart needing ground, to land on? Indulge in a moment of reflection if the subject is inviting for you. Because I love music here’s a link to a playlist to “read and listen”, relax, enjoy, and stay open-minded. Spiritual Bazaar-Music for the Heart playlist.
So let’s just gently touch the surface of:
Physical Vs Emotional Scars
(Whispers from one Heart to another)
The physical aspect of us can be changed cosmetically, can be seen in the mirror, generally easy to ‘describe’, and these scars generally heal well and are mostly concealed anyhow.
With the scars of the heart – the emotional scars its a very different subject altogether, be it either inflicted upon us for no reason at all, as a result of our choices, or for any other reason altogether, either way, emotional scars are carried through a lifetime mostly always… yeah pretty much always and they do not fade even though most times they are not even visible.
The point is that it is alright to have dark moments, does not make us any more or less worth it, more or less special. While we cannot change the events of the past, we can certainly change the way we see them for our future from now onwards.
So now that we established that we each have our own share of scars and that, that is ok, how do you learn to live with them?
We do not get over, forget or move on per see from their causes – for they don’t just vanish. We make space for it. We carry it, and learn to live with it – depending on the lenses through which we choose to see it all through, we strive in spite of it!
How do we live with emotional scars?
“Every dark moment is a teacher” read again…
“The only time, we can change the future is in the present”
When I conscientiously, and intentionally began my journey of seeking personal change & growth everything began changing including me. It is astounding to discover what I’ve become as a result.
Seeking personal change, emotional intelligence, and or growth is for everyone, it is not a special call of some sort and not only it is that simple, but it is also that easy. It is a choice that follows by a decision and a plan of action.
We create life with the future in mind, one day at a time, often mindlessly forgetting to be in the present, this “is” what becomes of our reality… then future thoughts become past thoughts, then again, and again in a loop that repeats itself
In truth, life happens here and now. This awareness opens the windows of the soul.
Becoming aware of the idea that we live life looking at the rearview mirror, enlightens us to understand how we live the present, in order to change the future. Finding that it is all at my will was mind-blowing (I knew it before most likely but it was like I was on autopilot) hence not with the same dept, I’d not seen it from that perspective or in that light, at least not up until then.
See, when I started learning that life may well boil down to what we create for ourselves, I realize I had some sort of control to choose and decided to act upon it, only that at this time mindfully so, or more carefully and considerately at least.
I was astounded to discover that, as simple as it sounds it is up to us how and when to steer the wheel, and where I want to sail. The question became what was I going to focus on next? where was I heading? even if sort of aimlessly at first. So I began in the direction of my dreams and desires. I kept testing this idea or theory, and still do as every now and then we take the wrong turn here and there and need to look into it, the further I went the better I became… This is how we navigate through our human experience
- When the mind’s focus is on what happened to you, you become what happened to you because you let it define who you are.
- When you navigate behind your dreams and desires, you dim your light and your potential.
- When you survive instead of striving, you become a victim of the story you tell yourself and others, (let me tell you, we can make up some real stories alright)
- When all you do is regurgitate all the sorrow about your existence, you claim more poverty of all kinds, emotional, physical, and spiritual. Like attracts like.
- When you give wings to your imagination, dam we can fly pretty high in whichever direction that may be, good to your benefit or bad to your detriment. The effort is the same so why not do so to your benefit rather?
Who do you want to be? Go, be it! No one’s holding you back… but yourself.
“Stop walking through the world, looking for confirmation that you don’t belong” if you look for sorrow, inadequacies, your shortcomings and a poor existence, that is what you will get more of, believe me, you.
Grab every opportunity to build and pursue your dreams. Who do you want to become? be it! you have the choice isn’t that Awesome?
- When you shift your focus from the pain of your scars so does the focus on the past, and your shadows shift, and you start living in the present, which automatically changes your future too, and further live by this default. I did it works! changing becomes effortless. This is the healing process.
The past cannot be changed. The idea of personally or internally being ok with my scars in order to move on, sounded insane and pathetic at times, needless to say, that forgiveness is a module that cannot be skipped during this growth and transformation process. Forgiveness and others like gratitude, honesty, and so on have to be practiced and it becomes a companion throughout life’s journey till the day we die. The longer practiced the better and easier it becomes.
Finding within yourself a way of seeing it as such is the goal, otherwise, we stay stuck in the void, paralyzed and frozen in time and looping in circles trying to understand why it happened to you, wishing it never did, hopelessly in fear that it could happen again… building up walls, defenses as protection mechanisms (a long hard road I can tell that much), and a bottomless pit.
We do know that there is no turning back and so wishing it never happened isn’t a helpful approach at all, not in the long run anyway; It is not about the perpetrators either, nor the reasons for why it happened to us – no one ever deserves to be hurt, disrespected, mistreated, or in any way abused in the hands of another human. Therefore, it is what it is. It happened and we cannot change that fact, what changed? how I felt about it.
So, this is how you live with your scars, they will be there, however not as a reminder of pain, but as teachers and remembrance of the worrier that you are, for healing purposes.
So, I ask you, what are you focusing on, in your life?
Home is wherever the Heart is...
Spotting my ground before landing, whenever life takes an unexpected turn has always required, seeing and being myself worthy, deserving, and belonging to evolve and manifest my desires
When in lack of any one of the above I could not see the light and could not feel the rays of Love energy either, not because it ceased to exist within me as is an endless source for you, for me, and anyone but because I was on my own way.
The job of the Heart chakra, wheel, or energy center is endlessly channeling unconditional universal love, that encompasses all there is in this regard or any other that concerns our species. We either tap on it or block it, consciously or not. When I became aware, I also became fond of the idea of learning to be its essence! Loved. Loving, in-love… simply ” Being”.
The choice and decision to embrace it include validation of one’s emotions. look inwards in search of truth, my heart chakra is the conduit available to me and to all of us. When we let the ego get in the way, we break up the signal of this connection, the guidance ‘we get on our own way’ and lost.
Every time we experience the field of love light radiating, we realize how closed, and disconnected we become throughout life.
As in waking up from a dream, you cannot figure how long it went on for… how long did I kept it going, enabled it, my role, or for how long I’d been disabled from radiating the love to, from & through me, yet the channel was always there?
None of this is a matter of logic, nor matters of the mind, but the heart- Sense of Knowing, emotions, intuition – When it comes to such matters, the mind gets more in the way than it actually really helps.
Only Self-Love heals emotional wounds
Our answers hold the insight for the transformation that we desire
Questioning ourselves however challenging and awkward it may feel is the way to get the answers we want from our hearts, questions are the triggers that spark Self-healing, Self-Love, and Emotional Intelligence.
Talk to your heart, in silence … then listen to your heart’s reply.
This ANCIENT Technique to Making Tough Decisions | Gregg Braden – listen to it here is so simple, yet so powerful.
Stay blessed, Stay put, in love, for love, with love & Sparkles for your amazingness!!